BBW Makeup: July 2012

7/27/12

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Voice from Maria:
You all probably already know what a BBW is - Big Beautiful Woman. That's another name for us larger ladies. But it generally goes farther than that. It's a term used by those who are overweight and proud of it, and those men who love them.

There was a time, many years ago, that I had given up on myself and the thought of ever losing any weight. I just didn't think I was able to do it. I never had before, I didn't believe I was strong enough. So, I thought I'd jump on the BBW bandwagon. I wanted to learn to love myself just as I was, fat and all. I joined websites, AOL groups, read books about it, whatever I could find. I even was on a talk show on the subject.

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There's nothing wrong with any of that, except some people in this "movement" support weight gain. I draw the line there because I'm for acceptance of everyone as they are, not if they lose or gain weight, color their hair, wear the right clothes, etc.

I was in my middle twenties then. I had never had a date or been kissed. I signed up with some of the BBW dating sites and started talking to men online. That sure was an education! These "BBW Lovers" had different size requirements for their women. I was too small, too big, too short. One man actually asked me to gain weight for him. I quickly let him know I wasn't gaining OR losing weight for any man.

After awhile, I came to a realization. I don't want someone to love me just because I'm big any more than I want someone to only love and accept me if I'm small. I'd really prefer being loved for me, exactly as I am, no matter what. Is it really too much to hope for to find a man who will love me for myself, exactly as I am? What if I get sick and either lose a ton of weight, or gain a ton? What if I'm in an accident and get scarred? What about when I start getting wrinkles?